If you’ve read my older posts, you may have come across my recommending the book Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway. I’m going to recommend it again simply because it’s something that is coming up a lot in my life lately.
I mentioned in a prior post about going for the PRINCE2 qualifications and then learning that I hadn’t really needed to be quite as nervous as I was. I passed the foundation level having learned just the fundamentals and felt much better about professional learning as a whole. What I may have skipped over at the time is what prompted me to get started on learning project management properly in the first place. While it’s true that I want to be able to complete some pretty big projects over the next couple of months, the reason that I have such a tight deadline is that I accepted a job offer with a new company as an analyst.
This may not come as a shock to some of my readers as my content has gone from productivity and optimising reports and workflows right on through to analysis and tools that accelerate that.
I was worried about whether I was really ready for that step in my career, but after gaining the PRINCE2 certification and slowly picking up the tools and advice I needed to get a firm grip on how I should be developing, the fear has retreated a fair bit!
There have been a lot of other areas that I’ve felt fear and had to face it as well; our landlord is looking to remodel the flat we live in and potentially evict us as our tenancy agreement is drawing to a close. I panicked about this for a few days and my wife was not eager for us to move again, especially as we would be moving at the same time I’m starting my new job! However, we talked about it properly and she suggested a location that would actually work out brilliantly for us, because we kept the conversation going even though we kept disagreeing and it was hard to keep coming back to.
Another area I felt fear was in confronting my family and the dysfunctional relationship we have. I felt guilty about not talking to them but spending time with them just brought me down. I went to therapy over about 3 months to talk about my problems and realised that I can just tell them that I need a break to think things over. There is no reason to punish yourself for needing boundaries, just because you’ve never had them before doesn’t mean you can’t have them now. There’s still a lot of work to do there, but I’m doing what’s right for me, which feels awesome.
The final area that I’ll touch on tonight, is my social awkwardness problem. It’s something that I’ve carried throughout my life and let hold me back. Following the therapy, I’ve been making some really good progress on spending time with other people, and actually really enjoying their company. Making new friends as an adult is hard if you didn’t make friends as a child, but when you find the right sorts of people, it isn’t as much of a challenge, in fact it has been really fun.
So basically, that’s how I’ve been confronting my fears over and over and over in the last few months and you know what, feeling the fear and doing it anyway rocks.