Yes, this post title has been directly pinched from the title (and subtitle) of a very famous book; Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff by Richard Carlson.
If you don’t have this book, you should make a point to pick it up. If you do have this book, I encourage you to read it or re-read it.
This book has been sitting on my shelves for a while and I would regularly notice it, vow to read it soon and then get busy with other things.
It’s actually a very short book, I’m about a quarter through since this afternoon with a lot of other things happening as well, but with a lot of insightful tips to help you have a more relaxed and fulfilling life. Things like imagining that everyone else is enlightened and you aren’t, and they have a job to teach you some life lessons. I personally had a variation of this where I imagined what might be bothering that person, but maybe thinking of how they’re trying to help/teach you is a better approach?
Allowing yourself to be bored sometimes as well as actively listening to people so that they can relax when talking to you, are other important tips I picked up early on in the book.
The one that probably stood out for me the most is how we will always have things in our ‘in’ tray, even when we die. There will always be something else that can be done next. Rather than worry about what you need to do, take a break, spend time with friends and family, relax, the work will still be there when you get back, it will always be there regardless of how much you get done. Clearing your ‘in tray’ is only ever temporary, it is not an exception to the rule!
So Don’t Sweat The Small Stuff, relax, listen, smile at strangers and be present.
(And play games if you want to, self-set deadlines are some of the biggest stressors that we need to reduce)