As I mentioned in a previous post, I’ve been reading Self Compassion by Kristin Neff and it has already helped me feel better.
My wife subscribed to Scribd recently and has been listening to audio snapshots of books, so I recommended Self Compassion as one to try out.
Following that, she recommended a book to me, The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine N.Aron. I read the snapshot of it myself on Scribd as well and found myself identifying with a lot of what I was reading.
The basic premise is that highly sensitive people are more aware of their surroundings, details and nuances. They are actively processing a lot more of what’s happening around them than others, and as a result, can become more easily overwhelmed. This can lead to anxiety, introversion and an appearance of shy or quietness. All things very familiar to me.
I noticed some time ago, that what I called ‘anxiety’ did appear to be helpful to me in some ways. I paid more attention to details, I spotted patterns, I played out different scenarios in my head before taking actions. I’d also take risks, in situations where my anxiety of what might happen if I didn’t take a risk would outweigh the anxiety of the risk itself.
So maybe instead of thinking of myself as an anxious person, I can think of myself as a highly sensitive person? It certainly fits and I prefer the way it sounds, although I’m slowly overcoming my shame of being an anxious and sensitive person.
Everybody has things they are bad and good at, different personality traits that help and hinder them in life, discovering and owning those things is empowering.
My name is Iain Saunders and I may be a highly sensitive person.
I may also just be an anxious person, it’s probably fine either way.
I’ll read both books and get back to you!